The concept of unconditional love these days may seem foreign to some, if not most. There are so many of us that are out here claiming to love & be in love, but have stipulations & conditions on what we hold in our heart.
Unconditional love is defined as:
affection without any limitations, or love without conditions.
More often than not, we go into relationships with unrealistic requirements that if not met causes what we think is love to waiver. We (myself included) have these preconceived notions about how love should feel, & what love should look like not really taking into consideration that our counterparts may be loving us the best way that they know how without being taught or giving all that they have to give in those moments.
Truly experiencing love is when you can look at, be around, & experience someone without wanting anything in return. Being able to go deeper than their flaws, being able to see past the negative, & simply being able to acknowledge their human nature flawed & all, but still want nothing else than to see them at their best is what I see as love.
In this day, we play so many games & manipulate so much thinking that it will result in some form of love from another person. I’ve heard so many times men say “of course I love her, she is the mother of my child” or a woman say “of course I love him, he provides & takes care of me”, but what happens when you take all that away? What happens when you’re only left with one another & have to decide? Do you still love these people outside of the circumstance you’re in? Do you still love after they no longer provide?For me, I can say that I've loved someone unconditionally that was not a family member or friend, once.
When you’re loving someone past all imperfections & it is not reciprocated, it’s hard as hell to come back from, but not impossible. Honestly, regardless of what was or was not done, how we ended, & where we currently are, I still love this person. This is so because I never expected a thing in return. I still don’t expect anything & will probably never have any type of relationship with them, but in spite of all that, what I still feel is love, which won’t change due to our current circumstance.
We have got to mature in our love sequence & not expect or require love from someone else to fulfill our needs. The first real unconditional love relationship we experience comes from God. Despite our shortcomings, regardless of our transgressions & trespasses against Him, he still not only provides, but gives us what we need when we need it. God knows when we will disappoint. He knows when we aren’t doing what we should & yet in spite of all that he still loves us.
Our first example of love should be the model we follow when we approach the connections we make in life. We are only as good as the love we give to the world. Loving is hard, but not as complex as it seems. Even if it’s not a returned gesture. Love is what heals. Love is what connects. Love is what reaches.God is Love & Love is the light.
-Tee
