Can I Take You Out Tonight?
A loaded question that unfortunately a lot of women, myself included don’t hear often. The subtle art of dating has been forgotten & this microwave culture of things happening quick has taken its place. Chivalry has indeed DIED.
In the age of DM slides, dating apps, & quick fixes, we all have forgotten or don’t even know what it’s like to court & be courted. A couple days back I got a DM that I immediately had to screenshot & send out to decipher what it meant.My female friends thought okay it’s cool respond like this & my male friends said nah don’t even entertain it, that’s not how anyone interested in anything you have to offer should come at you.
It made me really see that we (women) have really been trained to settle because of what we are used to or because that is all we think that the male species is capable of giving. When in actuality they are more than capable of being decent ass guys, but who pushes that agenda? Who says “nah I’m good fam, come correct or don’t come at all?” NO ONE! They keep at it because they haven’t been told properly.
I am finding that being vocal about this in particular has left me with Jesus & Jesus alone lol, but I had to stop letting anything slide for the sake of not being alone & having someone to finance my social drinking.Y’all know I’m real good for getting blocked & even though I have been on hiatus not much has changed in that area. I’ve been blocked a few times by dudes that are butt hurt that I “disrespected” them.
Honestly none of them were doing a damn thing to earn the respect that they believed they were entitled to.I can go on & on about what the people I have encountered are or aren’t doing, but I’ll save you the yawns & say this, what you are seeking to find is out there & that goes for men & women. What you want isn’t a facade. It can & will happen BUT you have got to be willing & open to reciprocate the very things that you are expecting.Ladies don’t be afraid to ask a man you’re interested in on a date.
Men don’t be scared to step out of your comfort zone & open a door or simply ask “Can I take you out tonight?” Manners & effort go a long way on both ends & if we can get to a place where we respect each others hearts & minds, the sky is the limit for any relationship romantic or platonic.Let’s revisit the lost arts & aspects of life.
We have got to go back to the basics. Instead of putting it in the microwave, set the timer & let it simmer. Let things marinate. Let it cook all the way through. I swear it will taste much better…
P.S I know it’s been a minute… I hope y’all are still tuned in…Since March I have been on a soul searching journey to get my shit together. I felt so empty. I felt as if what I was creating & putting out didn’t matter. I slowly felt my passion dying. I didn’t want to write just to say that I was writing. I wanted it all to mean something.I realized that I was not giving anyone reading & supporting me the 110% that they deserved, so I quit. I got so lost in my own head that I was willing to go back into complacency, but here I am back & so much better. I truly hope I didn’t leave you dehydrated.
The tea is hot & steamy again & I hope although the ride slowed down that you all are still coming along :)
Let Go & Let Love-Tee
