Dating Diaries: Volume 3

Welp, it’s been a minute since we’ve gotten an entry in the Dating Diaries(this is going to be a long one), but I am back with vol. 3! As y’all know, dating for me ain’t been no crystal stare (I am corny…my bad lol). It has been failure after failure & I am starting to take this shit personal. I took some time away from the dating sites, was kind of outside last year & have been trying to carry that over into this year, but still I am getting nowhere when it comes to meeting my ONE. The content lowkey writes itself so sit back & stay a while…lets get into this nonsense.

I don’t doubt my attractiveness at all, I know I’m good looking af, but I won’t deny that when it comes to being invisible I can be that & that’s okay. It’s VERY rare that I meet someone live & in person unless it’s somebody’s daddy or granddaddy…. The old men gone step EVERYTIME! So once I realized that being outside was yielding not a single result, I took to getting back on dating sites. I had some friends that were successful on a few of them so there I went & it brought me to Kevin...

Kevin was cool. Not really what I was looking for but we seemed to have enough in common that I didn’t mind seeing where things could go. Kevin had a good amount of kids… strike 1. I should have ran then but I was intrigued by everything else & we are not the sum of our past selves so why tf not?!?! Anyway, it wasn’t the kids that made me uninterested. It was the events after that had me like the road runner…

Kevin invited me out, we met up in a popular area here in Atlanta, & decided to go to a Mexican spot there. I had just had lunch with my family so I chose a place so I could get a drink. The whole time we were there he kept watching as the food passed by & stating “those tacos look good, I might have to go back to my car & grab my lactaid” strike 1.5 because what?

As time progressed, the conversation continued to flow things were cool. We finally parted ways a few hours later then ultimately decided that the vibes were there so we shouldn’t let our time together end. I shot him my address & we linked up for some movie watching. That was the last time Kevin & I went out. The next time we met up was kind of impromptu, so he came over after being out. Things were cool until he ran outta my place like there was a damn fire barely said bye before he was down the stairs. He later texted me that he had the bubble guts & had to leave before he messed up my bathroom. Strike 2… I appreciate the honesty, but he could have kept that information to himself… !

That was the last time we saw one another, but he kept saying how interested he was & wanted to see me again, I explained that if he planned something I would be there but he would just have to give me notice considering my work schedule but here we are 3 months later & Kevin is still texting me every few weeks asking me for my availability to not plan a thing…Strike 3… Wasting my unlimited texts messages at this point.

Then there was Carter, if you’ve read the other diary entries then you know that Mr. Carter is a repeat offender from volume 2. Carter finessed his way back randomly. It started with a follow on TikTok first. Me to Me: ”I know that ain’t who I think it is” turns out it was.

He watched my posts for a few months before we crossed paths again on a dating site. Things picked up where they left off. He explained how it was “him not me” that I did nothing wrong & that he didn’t think he would meet someone he was SO interested in & it caused him to ghost me because “he had a lot going on” & he didn’t want to hurt me….the excuse of the century for these men who just simply “ain’t shit.”

Anyway, I decided to give him a 2nd chance because the first time wasn’t torture enough I guess! I was out of town for work so we had to wait about a week to finally get together. I was under the impression that we would be going on a date the Sunday evening after I returned home based off of the MANY conversations that we had been having. He even picked the place. Sunday came & went & I heard NOTHING from this man not even a text, but he had been on social media all day. The place we were supposed to be going had since closed before I took to my IG stories to tell of yet another failed attempt at dating.

That got his attention & I finally received a phone call. He gaslit me into thinking that I had misinterpreted what he’d said (I had the texts so I know I wasn’t tripping) & that he had his daughter all day & when he has her he isn’t on his phone much when they are together…MIND YOU, he had been posting memes on IG all day. I explained to him that it was bs & that a quick text to pacify me would have sufficed, but even in the back & forth we both agreed to meet that evening because well. I am a glutton for punishment.

We linked up watched movies & engaged in adult activities. He texted me when he made it home & he was never heard from again *kanye shrug* I texted him Good Morning the next day only to find out that I had been blocked from his phone & all of his social medial. We are both VERY grown so if it was just supposed to be physical he could have said that & we could have pressed forward because HEAR ME & HEAR ME GOOD! A TIME WAS HAD lol It’s laughable at this point because WTF…!

Next up is Derrick. Derrick followed me randomly on IG. We had no mutuals so I assumed that I popped up as a suggested follow or something. Anyway, once I approved his request to follow we conversed all day via IG. He eventually asked for my number & we took the conversation from IG to phone calls. In our first conversation, this man insulted me within the first 20 minutes. He had asked me about my previous dating experience & I think I am too honest sometimes so I proceeded to tell him about my most recent fails. He then says to me “You must stink. Like really smell bad. What is it about you that you can’t keep a man around?”

I was certain I didn’t hear him correctly so I asked that he repeat himself & sure enough that is what came from his mouth. I laughed it off & said to him that was a random conclusion to jump to & that he must’ve experienced that previously for it to be the first thing that he brought up. Despite that lil hiccup we continued to talk all week. He assured me that he would be nothing like the men before him. That no woman could get to him enough that he’d feel the need to block them (I made him out to be a liar on this one)

In that week, prior to us even meeting, Derrick tried to convince me that he never followed me on IG & that I sought him out… that I didn’t smell great since I seemed to have everything else going for me that he admired so something had to be wrong… & that he wasn’t a “Tyler Perry ass nigga” that wined & dined, or took women on dates, (they did look alike though) but couldn’t seem to figure out why he was in fact STILL SINGLE at 40. Eventually I pissed him off enough to get blocked, but SHEESH!

I truly hope my next entry in this series is me telling y’all I finally have a man because I can’t take much more….When they recently announced that we were in fact not alone & that the aliens were here, I lowkey got hype. Like let them free! Maybe they know how to treat women & want to settle down. Hell stranger things have happened lmao.

Seriously though, here I am almost 3 years later still having the blues when it comes to these men. The only difference now is that I know how to better handle the lows of my emotions when they surface from still being single af. It’s so clear that there is no right or wrong way to do this dating thing. I’m still out here accessible to whomever may try to enter next, but whew I AM TIRED!

Still I Rise…

In all ways & In all things,

Let Go & Let Love

-Tee